Turning Towards Your Paether,

One of the sentences that I really liked on the book was "turning towards each other and building up their sense of trust". And I realize that is so true by turning towards each other a build such a great friendship that you will have a greater bondage and trusts towards your spouse. Is something that I realize that me and my husband need to work on as I was reading the book I told my husband can you please read this two pages. I was afraid that he was saying that right now I'm tired but he was willing to read it because he knew that I felt that it was important. When he read he smiled and start laughing and giggle. and it made me realize he knows what I'm trying to say and that is we need to work on this so we can be able to have a better relationship towards each other. When I asked him what he thought about it he just smiled. I told him that we needed this to help our relationship grow. And he agree. But that small simple act that he was willing to read the two pages make me happy. Because when I asked them he stopped what he was doing and gave me the full intention that I have not seen for a long time. I really am excited to work on the emotional bank account. We are excited to also try to go on a date without children so we can focus on the things that we need to work on. I have noticed a great big difference since we did the first activity and so I am excited to see the results of the second activity. Today my coworker was telling me that it's been really hard for her and her marriage and how she is just really to quit. I told her to what I learned. And I said to her did you do all that you could to save her marriage. And she replied no. I was excited to share some of the things I have learned this week. And the difference that has done in my marriage just by doing some of the activities from the book. I told her that I have been in that situation before but because I have been learning so much it has helped me to understand the important to fight for your marriage. And to see what you're struggling and how to build it stronger. And I told her the important of turning towards each as a couple. I told her about the story of the the brother from BYU Idaho that talked about turning towards another. How he change his perspective of doing things so I told her I was going to bring her the paper so she can read it. It only takes one person to make a difference.

Having fun getting to know your spouse

.Last time I talked about the importance of having your spouse being your best friend. what are fun ways to get to know your spous? why is it important to have fun to get to know your spouse. The book talks about the importance of having a love map and your relationship.  and I said to myself what is a love map?  it's knowing your partner's pretty well. For me for this exercise was amazing because I don't really have a  love  map in my relationship. By working the question games from the book the seven principles of making marriage work. had helped me a great deal and also the class that I'm taking at byui. Anyways the funny part of taking this question games that come in the book. I was able to get to know my husband better as he was able to get to know me better. For example I have told my husband my favorite food and as we were playing the game they ask what is your spouse favorite food.  and I was surprised that he didn't know. Because I have said it in front of him and I guess he didn't grasp it. What he put down was carne asada burritos, then taken as an offense because I know we're trying to get to know each other better and it's a game. I started laughing and I said no. I asked them what you think that I like burritos. and he said always because I buy them all the time. So I thought to myself wait a minute he is thinking of me in a way because he's trying to remember what I normally do. but I told him no burritos are not my favorite food it is enchiladas. The reason why I buy burritos is because that's the only thing open around 11 at night around our area. so we both started laughing. So that is why I think it's very important to get to know your partner's because you get to know better their needs and you're able to understand more of them.  I also learned it's very important to have a positive thought of your spouse.  and it's also really important to learn to cherish your partner. and talk about the important to minimize thoughts of negativism torture partner. to challenge yourself to have positive thoughts of the good things that your  Partners do. Always remember that no one's perfect they were all trying to become better and that is to help each other to fulfil those goals.

How to better your marriage

One of the things that we want is to have a happy marriage.
So how can we do that first thing first what I learned this week was very important for me. To have a great friendship with your spouse. When they said merry is hard yes it is challenging yes things do come up in a marriage. But the most important is to know your spouse pretty well. I learned by reading the seven principles of making your marriage work was important key that I didn't realize how important it is and what I learned is that your husband or wife should be your best friend. That means have a very close relationship and knowing all you can know about your spouse. Dr.Gottman " that happy marriage are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a  mutual respect for the enjoyment of each other company" and that is what I'm working in my own marriage to become best friends with my own husband since I didn't have enough time to get to know him it's been really rough. But there is no giving up.

What a blessing it is to have a temple marriage.

I had a great opportunity to understand the difference between a covenant marriage and a civil marriage. When you are married and you have made a covenant of being with your spouse for time and all eternity that means you're with your spouse for the rest of your life and Beyond Death. When you marry and the when you married civilly your marriage ends on Earth like it says, two to death do us part.
I'm thankful for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  I'm thankful for the temples. Because we have the temples were able to get married to our spots for time and all eternity and bless our family to be with us for the rest of our eternities. we make a covenant when we on the temple with our spouse. and as such a beautiful Covenant. My husband had a good talk today about the importance of a covenant marriage and a civil marriage. he said you work hard to make your marriage work because you just not made a contract you made a covenant. in the something you just throw away or just quit right away you work hard to make the marriage work. a contract you just rip it and throw it away like it's not a big deal. It's what keeps my husband to try to do the best we can to be a good husband and try to change his weaknesses to overcome them so he can be blessed to have his family for all the eternity. as I'm trying my best to to keep my family for time and all eternity. we're not perfect but we can try to be better each day.