Thinking that our Friends or are Core- workers are better than our spouse

I really enjoy reading the story about being Fideliny in marriage. What I have learned was that it is important to understand, that sometimes we can fall into a trap, thinking that our friends, or core workers. Are better than our spouse. I know because I compare my best friends to my husband. And I used to tell that to him that he's not like my best friend. I never realize  that was hurting my husband. I thought that that will motivate him to be like my friend. I didn't compare my husband with any of my coworkers. But as The Story Goes the wife was very in tune with her co-worker, then her own husband. Jane's sister was able to help her to realize what was going on with Jane's relationship with her husband. one thing that  I was grateful that my husband help me understand thing that my frend is not my husband. That your friend would just be your friend he's not married to you so things are not going to be the same if he was married to me. I was like okay. You don't know what you're talking about. Even though I didn't see my friend I always compare him because I had a great friendship with my best friend. And I never realize that even though I was not hanging out with and it affected my marriage. After I read the story I feel very bad and sad that it made me realize that my husband had a point and I was so wrong. What I have learned was that you can't change a person. But you can change yourself. And they will see your change and motivate them to change for themselves. I'm thankful that I read the story I apologize to my husband. And also made me realize how Satan works he works little by little until he has a hold of you cuz what he did with her. What the woman in in the story, little by little she was focusing on her co-worker rather than her husband. And she was pushing her husband away by the way she was acting towards them. So hopefully she was able to talk to the bishop and work things out with her husband. 

Your spouse imperfection

It was humbling to hear the story again about grapefruit. It made me cry because it made me realize that we shouldn't be so picky over spouse imperfection. Or the little habits that they have. What a beautiful teaching moment when the husband said" I can't think of anything I don't like about you. It was a teaching moment for me. I even share the story to my husband about the story about the grapefruit. We feel that is very important to have a better understanding how to deal with the things that can be annoying to us and not let that run our life. That can cause conflict.

As I was reading the book in library during work time. I showed this to my coworker. I just felt this very important to know this." God will have humble people. Either we can choose to be humble or we can be compelled to be humble... Let us choose to be humble.

We feel that it will be harder for us to be compelled to be humble than us to Humble ourselves how easier would that be. And how it can help us to grow but us doing our part. Bye forgiving and repenting. I'm still learning the process of repentance. And I also really like when they said that to "see our spot with compassion." I totally change the way you see your spouse.  It also helped me to learn about letting your partner influence you and how you can use that in a good way. Not in a way that someone has more power than. I really like how they first open the story about the guy trying to buy the Honda and he didn't want to buy the Honda right away because he told his wife that he would have a mechanic too see the car before he purchases it. It really shows a good  partnership. And how the husband respected his wife by doing what she asked him to do.

What a great way to see that just by listening to your spouse can help you see in a different way that you might have got see it.

charity

What I learned in Gaddard. It was Nene profound principles that are apply in daily life, but the most important is in your own marriage. And that is charity. In the beginning of the chapter the quote says "Pray unto the Fathwr with all the energy of heart, that ye may be filled with this love. And I thought to myself why is that in so important." I thought that was very powerful right away. The reason why I felt that was powerful is because. Is easier to focus on the negative and the positive. And by focusing on the negative we tend to harden our hearts. So bye hardening or heart there is no room for love. So it's very important to rely on prayer that we will have a heart filled with love. What is charity? "It is the pure love of Christ. Christ show us to love and to have charity towards other through his examples. When the book  form Goddard drawing Heaven into your marriage .talks about the woman that burst  in the courtyard, the woman show pure charity and love for Christ bye anointed his feet with oil. And God forgave her from her sins. What a great example we can use on our own spouse. The way we show charity towards our spouses and pure love for them it is by forgive for what they have done to us. And that is something I have learned that I have to forgive my husband, for the things that he has done in the past. Another thing it is to have thing is to have charity towards him. To have pure love and support to help him in his needs. And one thing I have to remember that we're not all perfect even I need to be forgiven for the things that I have done to him. What a great gift it is to have charity. I really like this statement " we are invited to cover their weaknesses with our charity." I really like what they said.  We learn humbleness by applying charity, and it helped us to become more like our Heavenly Father. And Jesus Christ. I Believe by having charity help us also to see the better side of our spouse because we are focusing and the good things they do and not the things that bother you the most. I'm happy for what I have learned and how I can apply it in my daily life.

what is love

  This week I learned about the  law of consecration. what is the low if consecration ? " The liw of commandment in the Latter Day Saint movement in which adherents promise to dedicate their lives and material substance to the church. It was first referred to in 1831 by Joseph Smith and today is practiced to different extents by members of the various Latter Day Saint sects." It also has a great explanation it in the book from Goddard  drawing Heaven into Universe. with was a learning experience for me. I never thought that the law of consecration could be apply it in our marriage. As I read the chapter 6 Goddard I received a humbling experience, I know have a better understanding of the law of consecration in marriage. I like this quote “marriage provides glorious opportunity to practice consecration. Just as I sick was willing to give his life as the ultimate exoresion of commitment to God, so we are invited to dedicate our lives, our talents, our weekends, and our weakness to the sacred enterpris sacrificing our marriage and ultimate perfecting our souls". When I read it my soul was full and I feel sad because I never saw it that way, never thought that loving and caring and serving is the way that help us understand more about the law of consecration. This chapter made me feel to be a better person not just in my marriage but all around. I also learned that it is very important to forgive are spouse, so as we are able to forgive them, our hearts will be full of love and caring not hatred and anger. I also learned that the law and consecration it is the law of our Heavenly Father. I'm thankful for this week's lesson I learned a lot.  I also was more impressed and ever of the story of Abraham and Isaac just I have heard the story about Abraham and Isaac and it never really hit me the way I read it in the book. The pure love that Isaac had for God was so impressive. He's had a humble heart. I told my husband to read this part of the book and he was so sad also and cried because he feels something he said I don't think I can ever do that to my son. I thought the same. But the obedience that Abraham had for our God. It's a great example for us to learn that we are to give all we have to our Heavenly Father that is to have a broken heart and a contrite spirit.

Humble yourself

In my relationship with my spouse I feel like I was right and he was wrong. I never knew the importance of humbling yourself. As I've been studying in class I have realized that it's okay to be wrong. And it's okay to humble yourself. I thought by humbly myself my husband would take advantage of me. But I was so wrong, it caused me to be a better and unloving person. One thing I learned is that we shouldn't be picky of the imperfection that are spouses have. But we can work together to make it better.. the book that I pretty much learned a lot was drawing Heaven into your marriage by Goddard. One quote that I like about chapter 4 was " God will have bumble people. Either we can choose to be humble or we can be compelled to be humble. And that was very powerful.  I also learned that I being sarcastic it is a way of pride. And also but I just not talking to your spouse and giving him the cold shoulder, is also a prideful because you're not given an opportunity for him to express his point of view. This book has had a great influence in my marriage it's been helping me and my husband to grow together and being able to see ways that we can't not be prideful and push away each other.