Turning Towards Your Paether,

One of the sentences that I really liked on the book was "turning towards each other and building up their sense of trust". And I realize that is so true by turning towards each other a build such a great friendship that you will have a greater bondage and trusts towards your spouse. Is something that I realize that me and my husband need to work on as I was reading the book I told my husband can you please read this two pages. I was afraid that he was saying that right now I'm tired but he was willing to read it because he knew that I felt that it was important. When he read he smiled and start laughing and giggle. and it made me realize he knows what I'm trying to say and that is we need to work on this so we can be able to have a better relationship towards each other. When I asked him what he thought about it he just smiled. I told him that we needed this to help our relationship grow. And he agree. But that small simple act that he was willing to read the two pages make me happy. Because when I asked them he stopped what he was doing and gave me the full intention that I have not seen for a long time. I really am excited to work on the emotional bank account. We are excited to also try to go on a date without children so we can focus on the things that we need to work on. I have noticed a great big difference since we did the first activity and so I am excited to see the results of the second activity. Today my coworker was telling me that it's been really hard for her and her marriage and how she is just really to quit. I told her to what I learned. And I said to her did you do all that you could to save her marriage. And she replied no. I was excited to share some of the things I have learned this week. And the difference that has done in my marriage just by doing some of the activities from the book. I told her that I have been in that situation before but because I have been learning so much it has helped me to understand the important to fight for your marriage. And to see what you're struggling and how to build it stronger. And I told her the important of turning towards each as a couple. I told her about the story of the the brother from BYU Idaho that talked about turning towards another. How he change his perspective of doing things so I told her I was going to bring her the paper so she can read it. It only takes one person to make a difference.

Having fun getting to know your spouse

.Last time I talked about the importance of having your spouse being your best friend. what are fun ways to get to know your spous? why is it important to have fun to get to know your spouse. The book talks about the importance of having a love map and your relationship.  and I said to myself what is a love map?  it's knowing your partner's pretty well. For me for this exercise was amazing because I don't really have a  love  map in my relationship. By working the question games from the book the seven principles of making marriage work. had helped me a great deal and also the class that I'm taking at byui. Anyways the funny part of taking this question games that come in the book. I was able to get to know my husband better as he was able to get to know me better. For example I have told my husband my favorite food and as we were playing the game they ask what is your spouse favorite food.  and I was surprised that he didn't know. Because I have said it in front of him and I guess he didn't grasp it. What he put down was carne asada burritos, then taken as an offense because I know we're trying to get to know each other better and it's a game. I started laughing and I said no. I asked them what you think that I like burritos. and he said always because I buy them all the time. So I thought to myself wait a minute he is thinking of me in a way because he's trying to remember what I normally do. but I told him no burritos are not my favorite food it is enchiladas. The reason why I buy burritos is because that's the only thing open around 11 at night around our area. so we both started laughing. So that is why I think it's very important to get to know your partner's because you get to know better their needs and you're able to understand more of them.  I also learned it's very important to have a positive thought of your spouse.  and it's also really important to learn to cherish your partner. and talk about the important to minimize thoughts of negativism torture partner. to challenge yourself to have positive thoughts of the good things that your  Partners do. Always remember that no one's perfect they were all trying to become better and that is to help each other to fulfil those goals.

How to better your marriage

One of the things that we want is to have a happy marriage.
So how can we do that first thing first what I learned this week was very important for me. To have a great friendship with your spouse. When they said merry is hard yes it is challenging yes things do come up in a marriage. But the most important is to know your spouse pretty well. I learned by reading the seven principles of making your marriage work was important key that I didn't realize how important it is and what I learned is that your husband or wife should be your best friend. That means have a very close relationship and knowing all you can know about your spouse. Dr.Gottman " that happy marriage are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a  mutual respect for the enjoyment of each other company" and that is what I'm working in my own marriage to become best friends with my own husband since I didn't have enough time to get to know him it's been really rough. But there is no giving up.

What a blessing it is to have a temple marriage.

I had a great opportunity to understand the difference between a covenant marriage and a civil marriage. When you are married and you have made a covenant of being with your spouse for time and all eternity that means you're with your spouse for the rest of your life and Beyond Death. When you marry and the when you married civilly your marriage ends on Earth like it says, two to death do us part.
I'm thankful for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  I'm thankful for the temples. Because we have the temples were able to get married to our spots for time and all eternity and bless our family to be with us for the rest of our eternities. we make a covenant when we on the temple with our spouse. and as such a beautiful Covenant. My husband had a good talk today about the importance of a covenant marriage and a civil marriage. he said you work hard to make your marriage work because you just not made a contract you made a covenant. in the something you just throw away or just quit right away you work hard to make the marriage work. a contract you just rip it and throw it away like it's not a big deal. It's what keeps my husband to try to do the best we can to be a good husband and try to change his weaknesses to overcome them so he can be blessed to have his family for all the eternity. as I'm trying my best to to keep my family for time and all eternity. we're not perfect but we can try to be better each day.

protect Marriag

I really enjoyed reading, the letter by Katy Faust. I was really impressed about what she wrote to the Justus Kennedy. I was impressed that she was raised with gay parents. But she writes to the Justice Kennedy about the important to protect marriage between a man and a woman. And the importance of a child having a mother and a father.  She stated that the most traumatic event was when her was when her parents divorced. And what she said got me to think about how important it is to have the two parents and the life of the child. She stated" kids wants their mother and father to love them and to love each other" and by reading this quote makes me think oh my goodness I need to try harder in my marriage. Because I want the best for my children.
                I also enjoy reading Elder Russell M Nelson disciple of Jesus Christ defender of marriage. I really like this part what Elder Nelson Said there is great power in a strong partnership. “A true partnership can achieve more than the sum of each action alone." that really meant something to me that it, was engraved in my mind. And I realizing the important of having a partner that you can working together. To up sheave family goals. I also learned the importance of being a disciple, and how we can stand to defend marriage. I was happy to realize that I am trying to protect marriage, by trying to do the best I can in my marriage. Second helping my friends not to give up in her own marriage. I have talked to her and taught her what I have learned in class. Today was a good example she's not a member of the church, but she said that her husband does not drink. She was surprised of what I said. I told her that she should be proud that her husband that does not drink. I told that I hated seeing my parents drink and how it can ruin families, but how my father changed when I was 8th and he became a member of the church and he stopped to drink. And how that bless my family. She did not say anything but she was surprised that I said what I said. 

Times are changing

            Times are changing for the worst. Have you thought of ways to protect your family?

This week in class” family 300”, I read topics and quotes about divorce. One of the topics that stood out the most was by President Kimball stating “Many of the social restraints which in the past have helped to reinforce and shore up the family are dissolving and disappearing. The time will come when only those actively in the family will be able to preserve their families in the midst of the gathering evil around them.”

After reading this assignment, I pondered about the time this quote was published and what it meant at the time up to the present day. Every day the world is moving farther and farther away from gospel principles. As a child I can remember television was much more family friendly, most channels that were popular had show’s that were based on daily family life, for example “Full House”,Blossom”,Family Matters”. I can’t think of a current family based television show today that doesn’t in one way or another promote immorality.  One of the biggest social declines in the recent years is the popularity of divorce. From my memory I can recall back in 1992 watching on the local news station how one needed a strong valid reason and a lot of money to get divorced; now days it’s easier to get divorced, one only needs to fill out some paperwork and pay a small fee.

Some ideas that I have to protect my family involve setting aside time to communicate and listen to the needs of my family. On Sundays after church as a family we avoid turning on any electronics, this allows our family to shut out the world helping us to create a stronger bond through our interactions with each other. As a safety precaution I put a security block on rated R movies. I also am cautious of any movie that target my children. Even children shows may have foul hummer that children shouldn’t be listening to.

There is no greater joy than knowing your family is being protected. Starting today just might save them.